Feeling of Importance

Feeling of Importance

Humanity has many needs for existence, but I believe a "feeling of importance" is one of the basic needs after food, clothing & shelter. In other words we can say only because of the feeling of "importance" the whole world is moving ahead.



Psychology says life is relationship and relationships are created only because of the feeling of importance.

1) Children seek importance with parents = love, caring
2) Parents seek importance with children when they become adult = love, caring
3) Every one seeks importance with class mates, neighbors = Friendship
4) Students seek importance with teachers = Appreciation, marks, caring, helping
6) Teacher seeks importance with students = discipline, respect and gratitude.
7) Boy seeks importance with a girl or girl seeks importance with boy = Infatuation, platonic love, erotic love.

 

 

8) Husband and wife seek importance with each other = Erotic love.

9) In profession associate seeks importance with his reporting manager = Appreciation, Promotion, Salary hike.

And the list goes on……………
 
If we see above sentences only we are naming the feeling of importance with different words according to the context.

Another exact opposite feeling to all those sentences is there. It is rejection. Any relationship starts breaking only when any one of the person involved in that relationship starts driving the other that he/she is not important to him/her and obviously we can drive only the people whom we give importance once.. Once it is initiated the process of breaking is very accelerative.

There are some paradoxes also involved in this:

1) We will not seek importance with everybody and we cannot give importance to everyone around us. And so we will create relationship only with very few people. Whom with we create has no logics involved in that and it happens very naturally.

2) Noone who involves in any relationship knows who started giving importance and how the relationship has grown. It is a natural phenomenon and is spontaneous. Noone who involved in any relationship knows, who started breaking and why the relationship has broken. But everyone can understand only one that the process of breaking was very accelerative.

In the end we can not just say everything is just a mind work.Its all bout our emotions and feelings.

 

With Love with the words of Osho

“Millions of people are suffering: they want to be loved but they don't know how to love. And love cannot exist as a monologue; it is a dialogue, a very harmonious dialogue. ”

Subramanian Ramachandran